long long love story. from a distance.

I am a simple human being. I am a mother of One precious little girl. I am a wife of a Seafarer.

Long Distance Relationship. According to Wikipedia, LDR is typically an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by a considerable distance. Almost 1 in 10 marriages reported to have been engaged in a long distance relationship.

I came from a not so welled off family. I heard that when you become or when you marry a seaman, you will become rich. so when I was on my grade school, I had this mindset in marrying a "seaman" (as what we all usually call it). Funny, but that's what I though about them. (haha!)

On my high school days. I have this dream of meeting my biological father. My mother told me he was a seafarer. And so that gave me an inspiration to really marry a seaman. I am hoping, my future husband will help me look for him.

During my college days. I was able to know about PMMA. It was a Maritime School located in San Narciso, Zambales. I went to their forum, the PMMAYER.net. I met a lot of Seniors and Juniors also the wives and the gf's. (Sorry, i have to skip on how i was connected to PMMA before.. haha!). There is this one person from batch 80's, he is now a Captain, he volunteered to help me look for my father in any ways he can. And oh! We have the same birthday.. :)

I first visited Zambales, July 2, 2009. But I first entered the Academy on August 2009. It was the first Aquintance party I attended.(My husbie prepared for the event, he was the steering committee chairman). I also attended February 2010's Valentines Party. I used to hear about my husbie's name on my "tropa".

He was the best painter.

He was the best in academics.

He was the one who made the design of their batch seal.

He was the best in drawing.. etc..

I was really curious about this guy names John Geoex Valenciano. Until graduation came. A friend of mine introduced him to me when it was his turn to go up the stage. I was about to take a picture of him, but he looks at me as if he was saying "cge subukan mo". And so I put down the camera. Hahaha.

I was able to interact with him during the popularity of Friendster. And was really amazed on how he described himself. I didn't make any move to get to know him not until Facebook came. :)

I looked for his account, and luckily, even though he kept his real identity. I was able to identify his account. I added him. Made a comment on all of his posts. (I was just making papansin. haha). I really want to know him since I was curious on how weird his posts and comments.

And Pooofff!!!

He chatted. We exchanged numbers. (Until now he kept on claiming I asked for his number first though he was the one who made it. haha) We met last June 29, 2010. We went to a movie. We kissed. (Aamin ako.) Since he thought I was one of those girls who will easily fall unto his "pambobola", well, I proved him wrong! I went straight home.

We still used to text. He is not fond of calling anyway. Not until the month of August 2010. He really never texted and worst he is not answering my call. But I never had a single doubt. I will fight for this. He again texted the next month. And I really assumed "Kami na!" (hehe. kakahiya, assumera ako. haha).

It was his Board Exam day. The day after, he declared that it will be our official day. November 17, 2010. Stunned. Haha! Akala ko lang pala kami na noon pa.. hahahaha!

As days goes by, the relationship went well and good. It was March 26, 2011 that I learned I was pregnant with our baby. It was 4 in the morning. I called him up and told him, "you're now a father". He just said "Congrats!".. ( Haha. Parang napilitan lang)

As days goes by, I asked myself. Do I still want to stick on my mindset to marry a seafarer for some wrong reason I made way back grade school? Hindi ko na siya makapa sa puso ko. I will marry because I now love the him. And I want to grow old with him.

Our life goes on. When I was on my 6th month of pregnancy, it was his turn to go onboard. I was thinking it wouldn't be that hard since I will be very busy with my work and my baby. But it's not that easy having a long distance love. We have this fvcking different time difference in different countries. I used to wake up even if it is 2 in the morning just to have a memorable chat with him. Yeah! everyday chat is a memorable one.

Communication was cut for a maximum of 3 lloooonnnggg weeks. It was really hard since I can't tell him what I want, what am i feeling. I am pregrant and it is so hard for me since I am living on my own. I need him but he can't be with me since he needs to go to work for our future.

I gave birth, since he was not there. My labor pain took 14 hours. I really wished he was there through my hard times. I saw my baby, he does not.

He went home. He saw and carry our baby. And we got married. August 22, 2012.

Currently he is on board for a month. I still have to wait for another 6-7 months. Same longing. Same emptiness. That is just the odd feeling of marrying a mariner. A lot of patience, sacrifice is needed to work things out. We had a fight. We reconcile. We are now on our 1 year and 11 months of being together. One more month and we will be on our second year! And I am hoping for a more years to come.

Kudos to those ladies who until now survived long distance relationship. I learned to have more and more patience.

"No great love ever came without great struggle."

HUSBIE YOU ARE THERE AND I AM HERE. I LOVE YOU. WE LOVE YOU AND WE MISSED YOU!